Last week in our town paper they had a special edition dedicated to the couples in our county who have celebrated 50 years or more of marriage. My grandparent's were included, and when I read their little section, I cried. I can't really explain why, I guess it was just sheer adoration for them both. Words cannot express how much of an example they both are to me.
After I read their section, of course I read the other couple's honored, and each couple some way or another mentioned this in their articles.
Divorce was never an option.
I think as a nation we're amazed when a couple reaches the 50 year married milestone. But why?? Shouldn't being married for an extensive amount of time be the norm? I think, yes, but sadly that's not the case. And let me just preface by saying that I'm not judging anyone who has gotten divorced. Sometime there are circumstances where it's the only option - for instance, cheating. I, personally, would have a hard time staying with my spouse if they had cheated on me. Like I said...sometimes divorce is the only option, and I understand that.
But let me also say, I think sometimes couples give up too easily when it comes to their marriage. Once the waters get rocky, people want out as quickly as possible. I think they all too easily forget the vows, "for better or for worse." I think this stems from a variety of things...not dating long enough (and yes, I think that's important...you need to get out of the lovey dovey stage before you even consider marriage), bad communication, anger issues. But aren't these issues you could consider working out...or are we just all so stubborn we want ideal circumstances??
I will say, I'm not married...yet (only 215 days though!!!!!!), but I know that I'm going to strive my hardest to make our marriage good and I want to learn to love Nathan more every day. I know it's not always going to be sunshine and roses and I'm not going to love him to pieces every day. I know we're going to have our rough days, but I want the amazing days to outweigh the bad. I want to make our marriage work instead of giving up when things are less than ideal.
Am I naive in thinking this?? I don't think so...if so, what's the point in getting married??
So lay it on me, what are some crucial pieces of advice to make a marriage work??